Those who tell you “that’s just how it is” should be taken with skepticism, local life coach Andrea Osowsky tells her clients.
“When you change the beliefs that are creating your reality, you are left with infinite choice, which is so cool,” she said, brimming with enthusiasm as a result of her latest motivational session at the Prince Albert Arts Centre over the weekend.
Don’t let the world that surrounds you dictate how you interpret things, she said, encouraging individual consciousness.
“Our parents teach us that’s how it is, then we go to work and our boss teaches us how it is, and we go into a relationship with someone and they tell us that’s how it is … We keep divorcing ourselves to validate other people’s realities.”
Although a simple message at face value, it’s a fundamental change from how people generally look at the world, Osowsky said, making it a hard sell to some.
“Sometimes it takes a few sessions to get them to understand that if you think it’s going to be a certain way, it will be that way,” she said.
Osowsky herself hasn’t always held these beliefs, and didn’t give the world around her a second thought until after her father committed suicide in 2006.
“I was rehashing what he did, what he chose, what his life was like, and I remember coming home and saying, ‘mom, when does my life start?” she said. “When do I get to live for me and choose for me?
“It took me about a year to do the whole counselling thing and to decide that maybe I can do something else, or something more.”
Osowsky said that she spent a bulk of her childhood concerned about and taking care of others -- namely her parents.
“I gave up my childhood to make sure they’re OK, and then dad commits suicide and then I realize, people are going to choose what they’re going to do anyway … I need to be choosing for me,” she said.
When you change the beliefs that are creating your reality, you are left with infinite choice, which is so cool. - Andrea Osowsky, life coach
“Since 2007, I live a life of choosing for me and living for me, and doing what’s fun for me. What I always say is, just for me, just for fun, because it’s my life to live and no one else is going to live for me.”
She went on to take theta healing and access consciousness sessions, becoming a certified professional energy coach and access consciousness bars facilitator.
She also earned life-coaching certification, melding all three philosophies together into her unique, optimistic brand of personal betterment.
Although her underlying piece of advice is to live for one’s self, she admits that there are obviously some instances, such as with taxation, where the world dictated by others plays an important role.
“Taxes are what they are, and that’s how it is,” she said of the way many people see it. “But, either I can look at taxes as a have to obligation, or as the contribution I made for my life.
“It’s just a different way of looking at things. It’s like, taxes are the guideline -- the government is our guideline -- to create my life around.”
A few years after making drastic improvements to her own life, Osowsky began devoting her time to improving others’ lives, setting up a business to engage others with private and group motivational sessions, centred on her website, www.andreaosowsky.ca.
“It’s just easier to align and agree with what everyone else is doing, so what I need is some brave people to step up and be happy, just for them, and then everyone will be happy and there’ll be this infectious cycle that everyone will get hooked into."